WHY CAN’T WE GET ALONG? by William L. Ingram



Why can’t we get along? Well the short answer is, because we don’t know how to.

“I love humanity, it’s just people I can’t stand” is a famous comic strip quote. It’s humorous and insightful because it reveals the knot of the problem. We like to think of ourselves as loving and kind, unless we suffer an injustice or a thoughtless act. We like the idea of wanting world peace and loving our fellow-man, in the macrocosm, or big picture; but when it comes down to loving other people, it gets complicated. That’s the smaller picture, or microcosm of this dilemma.
We can’t get along because we don’t value the power of forgiveness to change ours or others lives! Far too many of us love the intoxicating emotions of judgement and condemnation of others. It feels so good to justify our anger by putting others down! It gives our ego a sense of aliveness and empowerment of purpose when we decide to put someone “in their place!”
When we feed our anger and outrage this way we are diminishing our true selves, our being. We are keeping alive and growing our dark , negative nature that looks for every opportunity to judge and find fault!The better way is to learn to deal perfectly with imperfect people every day.
To make that a desire of our lives changes our attitude towards life immediately. We still inflict and suffer thoughtless behavior and painful acts, but we see our secret love for anger and we let it go, like a hot ember.
The power of forgiveness let’s us start each day with a new attitude. This new beginning means we still have the memory of a trespass, but no longer feel the pain of guilt or wish for revenge.
William L. Ingram/Author

Why I don’t hate President Trump by William L. Ingram/Author


This is a reprint of a communication in 2018.
Below is a portion of a letter from a white co-worker and fan of my memoir FINDING HEAVEN IN THE DARK, a book about my early life as a troubled black youth.

After reading your book I am at a loss to understand your support of a president who is a liar, a cheat, narcissist, misogynist, and racist, a mean-spirited, amoral human being who is damaging our democracy, the environment and eventually our safety.

I am curious, what do you like about this president?




Here is my thoughtful response:

Why I don’t hate President Trump
Dear Marie Anne,

Thank you so much for the wonderful words of praise you shared about my book! I appreciate your enthusiasm and inspiring others to read it.

Now to your question:
You certainly put a lot of ugly baggage onto President Trump. I recognize your list because it is the same one almost everyone who hates this man recites as evidence that he is totally unqualified and unfit to be President of the United States. I appreciate your sincere desire to hear my point of view, along with that of nearly 50% of our country, about why we support this President.

In advance we must agree to respectfully disagree about this subject. Neither of us will probably change the others mind with our arguments. Since you and I have a friendly relationship beyond our cultural and political differences we have refused to allow those differences to poison our respect for each other.

First let me say that I honestly see the same man who you and others see. I see a man who is my age, who is egotistical, arrogant, pugnacious, and can be mean-spirited and vindictive! I also see a man who has uncommon sense, intuition, graciousness, and loyalty to those who he admires as hard-working, honest, tough-minded people like himself! Donald Trump talks from his “stream of consciousness”. He says almost everything and anything that flows into his active mind, and this often gets him into trouble, especially with his humorless critics. Does he exaggerate at times? YES, and he should be called out on it as should every other politician who twists the facts to impress.

Basically Donald J. Trump is America! He personifies the GOOD, the BAD, and the UGLY about this country. He also represents every facet of human nature that we ALL share! Those who can’t see this is true are blinded by their emotional anger and hatred of him. They don’t see him as just WRONG – they believe him to be EVIL, and as such he is worthy of HATE!

A short history recap:
Donald Trump has been a high-profile business man and public figure for 40 years. He inherited Millions and turned it into Billions of dollars. He survived and even thrived in the rough and tough Manhattan, New York real estate development market. He became the toast of the town. He also at times seemed like a clown with a big ego to match his bank account. He was a Playboy and a self-absorbed narcissist. He also had a keen mind and some very insightful opinions about America and the World if you’ve seen his early interviews with Oprah.

He was never called a Racist, (until he decided to run for President), although he had a racist business practice that he was justifiably sued over. Like most men, and especially powerful and wealthy men, he attracted women and he used them.That is a terrible flaw that many consenting adults engage in. By that standard President Kennedy and President Clinton would also be considered misogynistic.

Trump was a New York Liberal Democrat for many years, but he slowly became more conservative as America began losing the Culture War. I didn’t know if I could trust his decision to run for president as a Republican. I was always an Independent voter who didn’t vote in primaries until I watched as Trump demolished his opponents. I liked Ted Cruz and Ben Carson but thought Jeb Bush or Marco Rubio was a lock. I even liked Carly Fiorina for her business like approach. But Trump made them all seem small because they were not going to take on the ruling political class which is what many of us have waited for! He was ruthless and awkward, but also refreshingly honest and very insightful during the debates. He was also fearless! He reminded me of General George Patton during WWII. He was rude and crude but used logic, skill, and bold common sense to explain his views on problems. I and 60 million other Americans were impressed. He knew who he was and was unapologetic. He also was unapologetic about Americas history and role in the world!


America is in the midst of a CULTURE WAR. Over the last 4 decades our country has been torn between forces of elite Liberalism and political correctness; and the forces of Conservatism and Traditional American values. Without congressional term limits our country has become dominated and controlled by career politicians of both Democrat and Republican Parties! These politicians, academicians, and liberal intelligentsia have controlled the information and direction of news and views for years. In modern times all of our Presidents have come from THE ESTABLISHMENT-The Ruling Elite. Most have been lawyers, who often have the common sense educated out of them until they become talking heads afraid to make a decision without a consensus or a compromise! (Every Congressperson wants to become a Senator and all Senators think they could be President.) Some of us saw President Obama as a Trojan Horse, or even a Manchurian Candidate who was a change agent for the forces of chaos that are determined to weaken and undermine our institutions and rule of law. We believe he succeeded masterfully to achieve his goal over 8 years.

Donald Trump was the Avenger many Americans wanted to finally stop our national slide towards European socialism and disrupt the rule by the Political Class! He may not have been the best person to do this, but we could only choose from those who offered themselves for service. This is why he is still popular among his supporters. He is doing the things he promised to do, unlike most politicians, and he is a fighter! He is hated by the Establishment Ruling Class because they are out of power for the time being. He is brash and vulgar and he fights like a Democrat. We may be ashamed or embarrassed by something he says, but it’s his deeds that we are judging him on, unlike his critics! He loves this country. He insults anyone regardless of race, creed, religion, ethnicity, or color! He has exposed the American Press as small-minded, thin-skinned lap dogs of the Democrat Party instead of being Watch Dogs for the American People!

President Donald Trump is a man, with the same passions and poisons that we all carry through this life. He is a sinner who needs forgiveness, and a leader who needs our prayers. This is an ugly world, with some of the worst people, of many countries, rising to the top to take power from the people. The forces of darkness want to weaken the United States by taking advantage of our culture war, and they may eventually succeed. At last we feel like we have someone who is fighting for common sense solutions to the problems our own government creates.

Donald John Trump is America, personified. He is the generous America and the ugly America. He is all the best qualities of our country, and some of our worst, embodied in one man who is not a political animal or a Washington Swamp Creature. That’s what I like. Someone who can bring order out of chaos without demanding that each American give up their constitutional rights. He could be a better President, and some of us are trying to help him with that, but he’s the only President we have now. May God Bless him and our country during these difficult days.

William L. Ingram/Author https://twitter.com/WLIngramAuthor

“Free thinkers are those who are willing to use their minds without prejudice and without fearing to understand things that clash with their own customs, privileges, or beliefs. This state of mind is not common, but it is essential for right thinking.

Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy (Russian Thinker)

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Secrets of a Parallel Universe:Facing Our Deepest Problems………….


Secrets of a Parallel Universe: Facing Our Deepest Problems is the Key to Ultimate Personal Success & Happiness

Secrets of a Parallel Universe: Facing Our Deepest Problems is the Key to Ultimate Personal Success & Happiness
by Roy Masters (Goodreads Author)

The notion of a parallel universe has intrigued the human mind for millennia. This book, however, is not about science fiction; it is about real life. Indeed, Jesus Christ himself, the most “real” human being that ever existed, spoke of the “Kingdom of Heaven” almost as though it were another dimension–a parallel universe.


William L. Ingram’s Review:

This entire volume is one of Roy’s best and most insightful books!

Happiness is an inside job that begins with honest self awareness. This excellent book reveals the purpose and practice of the Judeo-Christian “Be Still and Know” meditation practice that saved and enriched my life for over 50 years. The author guides the sincere searcher through the emotional mind tricks that keep us captives of self destructive behavior, and he reveals the way to observe our deepest problems and find emotional and spiritual sanity in a maddening world. A must read!
William L. Ingram/Author

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Kindle Edition, 190 pages
Published April 8th 2012



William Reviews: Christian Meditation by James Finley

Christian Meditation

Christian Meditation by James Finley

 Enter a Monastery Without Walls

Christian Meditation introduces an ancient practice to a contemporary audience. James Finley, a former monk and student of Thomas Merton, presents the fundamentals of both understanding and practicing Christian meditation. He provides simple, helpful instructions, as well as explaining the deeper connection with the divine that meditation can bring. Above all, he makes clear that the aim of meditation is to allow us to experience divine contemplation — the presence of God.


Review by: William L. Ingram

Beautifully written and insightful images of Christian inspired meditation!

Inspired by the great spiritual master, Thomas Merton, the author truly immersed himself into the purpose and promise of the search for God through Christian meditation. Besides a fascinating journey into the life of a monastery we are blessed with the authors gift of deep spiritual insights captured in concepts that are beautifully presented. Thank you for inspiring so many towards the inward search for enlightenment.


Ask the Author: William L. Ingram

“Ask me a question.”

Spoiler Alert as William answers Norahs’ question:

Dear Norah,

To answer your questions in order:

I did eventually return to L.A. and tried to continue with my musical interest, but after 9 months I returned to CT. to be with a girl I had met. This answers questions 1 & 2.

I don’t attend a church, although I have gone when invited and for other reasons. I still have a strong resistance to “Churchianity”, but I don’t berate people about it. I actually believe that Church organizations still serve a useful purpose and are part of God’s plan.

Man’s Pride and confusion have created all the religions and denominations that exist. The modern church should be more like a spiritual hospital or a walk-in clinic where broken and wounded people can find others to help them find healing and point them in the right direction. Sadly they want to turn seekers into “club members” and clones!

Once you find the Light of Christ and God, your intuition and conscience will guide you if you are committed to self-honesty and repentance!

Thank you for your questions and for reading my book!


What mystery in your own life could be a plot for a book?

 In my memoir FINDING HEAVEN IN THE DARK I actually do wrestle with the mystery of my unwed birth. The aftermath of my birth in 1949 and the decision by my mother and Grandmother to allow me to grow up without that knowledge effected my troubled teen years profoundly. The web of deceit and evasion was never meant to be malicious, but my life view confusion was still the outcome. The happy ending never happens but I grow and learn to forgive all of us for being human.

What’s the best thing about being a writer?

 As a recently published author everything about the experience has been wonderful for me. It’s been stressful, but in a good way that’s made me have to stretch and reach within myself to respond to family, friends and others when they learn about the book. I am very pleased with the finished product but also with the sense of accomplishment that comes from completing such an endeavor.

What’s your advice for aspiring writers?

Anyone who reads my book will see that I had ideas of becoming a writer after falling in love with books by Jack London. Even though I was a troubled youth I attended good public schools and understood the value of learning proper English and sentence structure. Another thing I recount in the book was how I worked to strengthen my vocabulary at every opportunity. All life experience can be valuable to a future writer if they learn to be objective to all aspects of every situation.

What are you currently working on?

 I am currently learning to market my book in the 21st century. I have a lot of opinions and insights that I enjoy sharing so I am anxious to begin producing a BLOG that I hope will also expose readers to my memoir.

How do you get inspired to write?

I resisted writing my story because of the embarrassing elements that I had to reveal about myself. I had willingly shared my early difficulties with others one on one but exposing myself to the public at large seemed frightening. I always believed that my story had tremendous value for the right person so I did actually start putting pen to paper during the winter of 2006. Off and on over the next few winters I became more convinced that it was a worthwhile project to complete.

Where did you get the idea for your most recent book?

 From my own early life experience. Because my memoir is focused around my mid to late teens I had a lot of material to draw from and much of it was unflattering, however the eventual healing of my soul that occurred as a result of my personal odyssey has continued to bless me in countless ways.

Thank you for your questions,

William L. Ingram/Author




 “I don’t believe people can change,” said the character in a T V program I was watching, “but I have seen it happen,” he added.

People can change for the better, but so few do. You know the ones I’m talking about. I was one of them. Our poor choices and bad decisions grind us down into a dark existence that only experiences temporary relief through escapes. We become bitter instead of better.

Some people just become addicted to their misery! They whine and complain but won’t take any real positive action to change and mature. People can and do change in a positive way but it often comes after or during a life altering event.

My own story in Finding Heaven In The Dark pivots around my virtual collapse in spirit and health at the end of my rebellious odyssey. Conditions forced me to see myself stripped of all pretense. I was naked emotionally and empty spiritually. Being humbled with a contrite heart and a teachable mind was the catalyst for change I needed. Whether you call it rebirth or awakened consciousness a vital connection with Divine Reality ( GOD) has taken place and your life will never be the same. That’s change you can believe in!

The “Be Still and Know…” Meditation Exercise I learned to practice prayerfully taught me to find the calming center within myself that works like a neutral zone, where objectivity and patience helped me realize the true purpose of life and forgiveness.

The “Be Still and Know…” Meditation Exercise I learned over 50 years ago is still helping people today. Here’s a link to The Foundation of Human Understanding:



Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

Man's Search for Meaning

Man’s Search for Meaning
by Viktor E. Frankl


The thought of suicide was entertained by nearly everyone, if only for a brief time. It was born of the hopelessness of the situation, the constant danger of death looming over us daily and hourly, and the closeness of the deaths suffered by many of the others. From personal convictions which will be mentioned later, I made myself a firm promise, on my first evening in camp, that I would not “run into the wire.” This was a phrase used in camp to describe the most popular method of suicide—touching the electrically charged barbed-wire fence. It was not entirely difficult for me to make this decision. There was little point in committing suicide, since, for the average inmate, life expectation, calculating objectively and counting all likely chances, was very poor. He could not with any assurance expect to be among the small percentage of men who survived all the selections. The prisoner of Auschwitz, in the first phase of shock, did not fear death. Even the gas chambers lost their horrors for him after the first few days—after all, they spared him the act of committing suicide.


William L Ingram Reviews > Man’s Search for Meaning

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl
Man’s Search for Meaning

Ilse Lasch (Translator)


William Ingram‘s review

Mar 20, 2020  
A true gem of insight into the human condition and beyond!

As a late comer to this powerfully written work I see why it has resonated down through the generations that grew up decades after the horrors of the holocaust. Dr Frankl’s recollections and keen insights into human behavior and motivations are wonderful. This book is a classic that will always be included with writings of man’s endurance and hope in the face of unspeakable evil!

Excerpts of highlights:

[The man with the corpse approached the steps. Wearily he dragged himself up. Then the body: first the feet, then the trunk, and finally—with an uncanny rattling noise—the head of the corpse bumped up the two steps. My place was on the opposite side of the hut, next to the small, sole window, which was built near the floor. While my cold hands clasped a bowl of hot soup from which I sipped greedily, I happened to look out the window. The corpse which had just been removed stared in at me with glazed eyes. Two hours before I had spoken to that man. Now I continued sipping my soup. If my lack of emotion had not surprised me from the standpoint of professional interest, I would not remember this incident now, because there was so little feeling involved in it.]

[For only one moment I paused to get my breath and to lean on my shovel. Unfortunately the guard turned around just then and thought I was loafing. The pain he caused me was not from any insults or any blows. That guard did not think it worth his while to say anything, not even a swear word, to the ragged, emaciated figure standing before him, which probably reminded him only vaguely of a human form. Instead, he playfully picked up a stone and threw it at me. That, to me, seemed the way to attract the attention of a beast, to call a domestic animal back to its job, a creature with which you have so little in common that you do not even punish it.]

[The Meaning of Love Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.]


FREE YOUR MIND by William L. Ingram



To sleepwalk through life reduces the chances of your soul Awakening to it’s True Purpose. The paths of least resistance and comfortable mediocrity lead to a fearful and unfulfilled life that may seem acceptable but is doomed to sadness and decay.

Free Your Mind and The Rest Will Follow is a favorite saying of mine. It’s my own twist on the Psalm 46:10 Bible verse “Be still and know that I am God.”

Free Your Mind means to learn to Be Still inwardly and create “space” between your ego mind chamber of competing thoughts, and your true, authentic Self. Yes, there is a difference between your True Self and your thinking self, but you usually don’t see it or understand it! That’s the condition we humans suffer from that leads us to become addicted to self-destructive behaviors and ideas!

As I put it in my memoir (Finding Heaven In The Dark), our mind has a mind of it’s own! It sounds funny but it is deadly serious. We think, feel, and react or feel, think, and react, as our mind is led on a merry chase through emotions we can’t escape or control. We become mentally conditioned to life view confusion, and poor decisions follow.

The Be Still and Know Judeo-Christian Meditation I learned to practice as a desperate youth, helped save my life! Learning how to become objective to all our thoughts and feelings is truly empowering, because it exposes the tricks and traps of our ego conditioned mind. Sincere meditation creates patience and patience gently frees the mind from past or future imaginings (day dreaming). Controlling your Attention is Freeing Your Mind! 

A Free Mind, aligning with the Light of Reality, becomes fearless and free from compulsive judgments. A Free Mind leads the rest of the body to improved health and contentment.

A Free Mind is Peace of Mind.

That thinking mind chatter still occurs frequently, but the Peace that is part of your True Self, makes it easier to ignore or respond to, as required.

https://findingheaveninthedark.com/ A Link to books website.

https://www.fhu.com/ A Link to F.H.U. Be Still & Know Meditation.


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